Making The Loyola Investment

As you walk around campus in this nippy February weather, you’ll notice here and there signs of spring popping up from the earth. Along with the new blooms follow a new crop of students, coming in droves to tour the school and attend information sessions with their families. Pretty soon the quad and bridge will be clogged with newcomers on Saturdays, and you just might get asked by a lost parent where to find Boulder.

Sometimes, if you’re really lucky (and I’m being serious, this is pretty cool), you’ll be asked what you like the most, what you don’t like, and the most personal question, why Loyola at all? What was the deciding factor? What was in the balance?

For those of you who have been with me since the beginning, you already know some of the answers. But not all!

To give you an idea of where I was by this time senior year of high school, I had heard back from a few schools, was still waiting on others, but had more or less narrowed it down to Loyola, Fordham, and Rutgers.

After taking the tour and seeing the freakishly large campus of my state university (and learning I’d have to take a bus to get to classes), I crossed out Rutgers from my list. I had already visited Fordham before I applied, but after I went to the accepted students day, I just wasn’t feeling it. I loved the programs they offered: their History, Women’s Studies and Irish Studies departments were very strong and they, too, had core requirements. I loved how it was in the city with the world at my fingertips. It was tied with Loyola, until I got their financial aid letter.

Suddenly I was faced with two schools I wasn’t very keen on and and third I had visited multiple times, but hadn’t had that “This is it” feeling which everyone talks about.

Don’t get me wrong, Loyola was on my Top of the Top List from the first time I took a tour! I really liked the campus, the students were nice, the department representatives I met were so friendly and open to questions, and the emphasis on service and core classes drew me in tenfold. But between the first time I visited to merely consider it and the second time for my interview, I still hadn’t been able to say “I can see myself here.”

February passed, and then some of March, while I watched my friends make their deposits to their dream schools. Then one bleak and rainy day (I’m not kidding, it was downpouring on the walk from my bus stop), I received a letter from Loyola saying I’d been awarded a merit based scholarship, which added a new factor to my interest in the school.

I attended the accepted students day in April, which included a breakfast for scholarship and honors program students, along with the crazy amount of activities to keep you busy. And that’s when something changed. There was no Eureka moment, no fairy chanting Abracadabra over my head to result in a poof of inspiration.

It was a gradual acceptance.

As the day wore on, I saw more that I liked, I heard more challenging and simultaneously appealing ideas, and I met more people I saw as like-minded peers. There was a sense of community I hadn’t felt at other schools, a deep grounding in the Jesuit teaching of core values. There were so many ways I could get involved on and off campus, I just had to know where to look. Even the dorms and living-learning communities were calling to me (give me a kitchen and I’m happy). I found myself being able to say that I could truly see myself as a Loyola Greyhound.

And that was more or less it. By the end of the day I had submitted my deposit and triumphantly called my sister to tell her the news. But there was a moment during that afternoon that’s always stuck in my memory and is one of my biggest motivators to do well.

My parents and I stood outside Boulder and figured out the financial difference between Loyola and Rutgers (I may have taken it off my list, but that didn’t mean it was off my parents’). Loyola was a stretch, even with financial aid and the scholarship. But my dad put it into these terms, “This isn’t just a monetary investment. It’s an investment in you.” And honestly, it’s an investment in Loyola.

Romantic Ratios

Hey you! Yeah, you! Com’ere. Now listen carefully. I’m going to let you in on a little secret. There’s this document called The Loyola Factbook. It’s packed with information, and I don’t know how many people know about it, but it’s AMAZING. There are numbers on everything. Every major, every ethnicity, every professor, every grad student who comes here is part of this demographic booklet. And let me tell you, the numbers make sense! You can actually see the evidence in the student body. Now, pretend I’m just part of the wall and walk away slowly.

In all seriousness though, you should check it out. If you’ve ever stood on the stairs at Maryland Hall and looked out at the throngs of students passing by, you’ll see certain trends, and I’m not just talking about fashion. Just take a quick glance: the first thing you’ll notice is the amount of girls on campus.

True, you can see packs of guys walking together, but for the most part girls surround them, weave in and out, and generally overtake the population. (The exact number, by the way, is 61% and 39%. Class years vary, but they’re all pretty close.)

I know I’m about to lose you if I don’t stop with numbers and stats and vague commentary, so think about this and how it might relate to living with almost 2,400 girls and just over 1,500 guys:

An Official Girlfriend Application

Yes, you read that correctly. Application. When I first saw this circulating online, I just laughed. Whatever, right? But I’m starting to realize we live in a world where we make decisions based on statistics, friendships based on profiles, and relationships (boss, co-worker, professor, etc.) based on applications.

The Official Girlfriend Application

So, when it comes to living on a campus where guys are in high demand and everyone is fairly competitive, this application is very tempting to fill out and tape to my door. As a joke of course.

I’m also fairly certain that if/when my parents read this, they will have qualms about me releasing personal information (a concern I share). So, as fun as it would be to carry around this handy application, here are some tips to carry instead.

How To Survive On a Mostly Girls Campus and Maintain Your Sanity

  1. Be practical. I get it, you want to look fresh, cute, and catch the guy’s eye, but seriously folks. Those cobblestones on the bridge are not safe for stilettos! At any time of day! And guys, shorts and flip flops in February is a very debatable fashion choice.
  2. Be smart. I don’t mean this in a “take care of yourself way,” even though that’s true, too. Be smart and show your smarts. Feigning ignorance of knowledge in and out of class doesn’t garner respect for either gender.
  3. Be diverse. Try new activities, join new clubs, go to the FAC. Getting involved means getting to meet new people.
  4. Stay relaxed. You already have to concentrate on school, extra-curriculars, probably a job, maybe even an internship. Don’t stress about looking for a guy in such a competitive environment, especially if it distances you from other aspects of your life. The same goes for you strapping young lads out there. Just because there’s an abundance of girls doesn’t mean you should revel in excess.
  5. Stay silly. This goes with the relaxed bit. It’s OK to be goofy, to laugh so much your eyes tear, to freak out over your favorite band/book/TV show, to make silly faces at friends in public.
  6. Stay true to yourself. I know, it’s cliche, but it’s so vital to figuring out who you are and where you belong as a young adult. It’s more important to feel comfortable with yourself than try to fit into a mold you think others want.

I know this post probably resonated more with my girl readers, but guys, thank you for bearing with me!

The Official Boyfriend App